I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Friday, March 23, 2018

This is going to hurt me more than it does you

Maybe you heard this as a child just before a spanking. Maybe some of your HOH use this silly phrase. I suppose it’s all in your definition of ‘hurt’. But I think most spankees give this a, ‘Yeah, sure’ when they hear it.

But what happens when it’s true? There has been no spanking or even talk of it here for a long while. I haven’t complained. It’s not been discussed at all. But I have noticed something. Nick’s hands are giving him trouble. I’ll see him rubbing his thumb and taking pain meds. He’s not much of a complainer, but sometimes I see him  flex his hands and occasionally mention his thumb is hurting. While I do love the sting and achy feeling on my butt, I do not want spanking me, to cause him pain.

There are alternatives. If he’d ever really wanted the lifestyle there are other ways we could connect that don’t involve an actual spanking. I do love a good spankings, but I’ve mentioned other methods of discipline to him over the years.  But after a while, when he never seemed to take to any of them, I just feel embarrassed to mention them again.

I guess his hands give me one more reason not to bring it up. Have any of you dealt with this problem?

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

Christmas complete! We had a wonderful visit. I got to sit and talk with both LJ and Collin and Mollie came for the weekend. It does a mom good to have all her babies back in the nest. I think they enjoyed their visit very much, but they are true New Yorkers now and I know they were also anxious to get back to their city and their cats. And no matter how much you love your kids, once you’ve lived in the empty nest there is always a little relief getting it back.

Mollie is going through some trials, being the mom of a cat. Mollie loves animals, all animals. Her cat loves going out, and she lives way back from the road so she lets her out for a while in the afternoon and early evening. The cat brought in her first prey yesterday. A baby bunny. Mollie was devastated.

It was much too young to survive without it’s mother. It was totally unharmed, her cat had treated it gently, but Mollie couldn’t just take it out and leave it to die. She called her vet, but they said they couldn’t (or wouldn’t) help her. She’s calling her old mom, the former vet tech for help, but what could I tell her?  I knew it had only a small chance of survival but I told her feeding it with an eye dropper was all I knew to do.

I couldn’t remember the exact formula we used for tiny animals and suggested she call the vet hospital I used to work for. They were much more helpful and told her that they had a wildlife specialist. They said if she could bring in in they would take care of it. And if they felt it couldn’t be saved they would put it to sleep humanely. That’s all she wanted to hear. She just couldn’t put it outside as prey for the other cats in the neighborhood.

She is so torn now. Her cat loves going outside. It’s spring, there are baby mice, rabbits, squirrels, voles, moles… the list goes on. It’s going to happen again and she can’t drive forty-five minutes to the vet every time. I’ve suggested keeping the cats nails trimmed and even having her wear a bell on her collar, but that won’t help any with baby animals.

I’m open for suggestions if anyone has any. I have the same problem with one of my cats, but Mollie is way more tender hearted than I am.  

Thursday, March 15, 2018

More questions...

The boys are here and I'm really enjoying my mommie time with my oldest. Christmas and Christmas dinner will be Friday night.

Meanwhile, more questions today! I have some from Baker, Ronnie, Sue-B, and Amy.

Question: okay, I would like to know what kind of spankings you desire most and why? What part of the spanking process most appeals to you ie...the lecture, the implement used...etc. is there an aspect you do not enjoy?

This one took me deep into my thoughts. The spanking I desire the most would be a real one. Not teasing, not a lead into sex, not one I can laugh off. I desire something with meaning and realism behind it. Something that makes it not just a game.

What appeals to me the most/least?

I can’t remember.

Questions: Sorry if you have already answered this. Are you very strict with your writing, like setting aside 1, 2 3 hours a day to write? 
What book are you reading at the moment?
What's your favourite meal Nick cooks for you.

Hey Ronnie,
To your first question I can answer a definite yes and no! I go to my writing room about 9:00 AM intending to write for about four to five hour or so. But I’m afraid there is a lot of wandering during that time. A little blog reading, a little Facebook cruising. I’ll write a post. I jot down ideas for a book that will be written in the future. I’ll make a grocery list. At the moment, I’m doing a lot of editing on various things. I’m afraid making progress on a WIP doesn’t get the focus it often needs.

What book are you reading at the moment?

I just finished The Good House, by Ann Leary. Loved it! And later today I’m starting Children of Blood and Bone, by Tori Adeymi don’t know quite what to expect, but I saw the author interview on GMA and like her.

What's your favourite meal Nick cooks for you.

Nick doesn’t really fix meal. He just makes sure we have something to eat. We often work on it together. I like it when he fixes Salmon and I’ll make a spinach sauce to go with it. Yes, I said it – I cooked a vegetable

My question, has Cassie ever met with her brother since her first husband and parents died? 

Thanks for the question Sue,
No, Cassie never saw her brother after that day. He sided with her parents and fully brought into the idea that Cassie was a horrible black sheep of the family.  He had a son, but Cassie never met him. She did eventually meet his wife and they developed a friendship for a time, but Cassie never met his children.

Question: Do you ever find that you write the thing you miss or wish you had in your own life and does your husband read your writing to get a better understanding of where you are in your head? Or, are the stories all separate from you and your real life?

Open a can of worms, why don’t you! LOL. Let’s take these one at a time.

Do you ever find that you write the thing you miss or wish you had in your own life?

Ever hears of Cassie? I guess writing what I want is all I do. Now the relationships in my stories are more intense than I’d want in real life, so you might say I’m compensating. But writing what I want and don’t have is what I’ve done for fifty years. And in the past twelve it’s actually moved from my head to the computer as writing.

Does your husband read your writing to get a better understanding of where you are in your head?

Short answer here, no. He used to. When we first began TTWD he read my blog, he read my friends blogs, he wrote stories for me for Fantasy Friday. We traveled across country to meet blogging friends. We were the closes and happiest we’d ever been in our marriage. But he stopped. He stopped reading, stop writing and I guess stopped wondering what’s in my head. He does help me edit the books when I ask him to. But the only comments are like, “Are you sure this tense is right?’ Our marriage is smooth and tranquil and I think he’s content with that.

Are the stories all separate from you and your real life?

The DD in the stories are all separate from me, but much of the flavor comes from memories I have of my parents travels – Mom’s friends had to buy prostitution license in Mexico. I remember couples I watched when I attended conventions with my folks. And in the most recent book, where I tell about a mountain lodge and Al’s Hardware – those place are real and Nick and I were there.

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Let's answer some questions

Today's the day - I hope! The boys are supposed to be flying out of NYC this morning. I guess it's all up to the weather. 

I do love questions! Today I have answers for Jan, Roz, Gill and Lindy.

My questions: When shopping do you choose your clothes according to things you know Nick will like or do you just wear whatever you want regardless? Is there anywhere in the world you particularly would love to visit?
love Jan, xx
Thanks for the question, Jan. I don’t think about Nick preferences when I buy clothes. He’s never voiced any preferences that I can remember. As long as I’m not naked as we walk out of the house heading somewhere, I don’t think he’s ever noticed what I’m wearing.

Where to visit?  Hmm… I’m a definite home body. There are people I’d like to visit, some in NYC, some in England and in Australia and New Zealand even. And I do travel to see friends sometime. But given my druthers, I’d probably stay home. Now Nick wants to see the Grand Canyon, the coast of Maine and many other places. And I’d be happy to go with him.

Questions: What is your favourite movie? Favourite place you have visited? 

At my age, you have to know I’ve seen and loved lots of movies. Cactus in the Snow is one no one’s heard of, but I loved it as a teen. I guess Steel Magnolias and Fried Green Tomatoes are near the top. I like movies that show strong friendships. 

Dolly Bag
I have a question - how did Cassie and Sue originally meet, I would imagine there would be plenty of fireworks before they became the friends they are.
Regards Gill

Hey Gill,
Most of the fireworks came after they became friends. Cassie’s first husband was a large investor in the company Steve worked for. There were many social functions and that’s where Cassie and Sue first met. Cassie was living in a world of terror at the time and was very quiet and subdued. But Sue realized that there was a special person hidden in there and she gained Cassie’s trust. Not an easy feat at that time.

My questions for both you and Nick.... What's one thing you always pack when travelling? If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be?
Hugs Lindy xx

I won’t say my Kindle because it’s rarely out of my hands when I leave the house for any reason. After reaching a certain age I rarely travel without my little fan that I keep on my bed side table. Most people don’t want the room as cool as I do at night and my little fan has been a life saver. I’d say Nick always takes his Kindle on a trip.

I’d live not far from where I do now. I want a cabin in the mountains where I have a beautiful view down into the valley. I think Nick would be happy there with me.

I'll have more answers up later in the week. If anyone has anymore questions, please feel free to ask.

Sunday, March 11, 2018

So excited!

I'm not sure how much I'll be around this next week. It’s finally Christmas time and LJ and Collin will be coming in Tuesday! I haven’t been with my boys for almost a year. Can you imagine not seeing your child, not getting to hug him, for eleven months? I’m so very grateful for his weekly calls, but it’s not the same.

They won’t be here the whole time. Collin's family lives about forty-five minutes from us and they split their time between the two families. They also have a few friends from around here to catch up with. I don’t mind sharing – well, not too much.

They will be seeing Mollie’s house for the first time and she’s in a tizzy. She wants them to like it and she’s afraid they'll feel it’s to ‘country’. I know they'll love it. They have often spoken with admiration that she is the only one in their generation, within group  their group of friends, to actually be buying her own place. They’re impressed. But that ‘little sister’ feeling is rearing its head within her. These imagined problems wouldn’t bother me except she wants me to come over and help her clean! Good Grief, I don’t even like to clean my own house.

I’ll be putting up some of the questions you were kind enough to ask. And you know I’ll be back to answer comments, but if I don’t get around to all the blogs this week, you’ll know what I'll be doing.